Hi guys! I'm back! Hopefully for real...here's the latest...
For
as long as I can remember, I have been a planner. I like to know what
to expect. I also like to know what I can do to help keep things on
track. There have been a few areas in my life where I have felt
completely out of control, and yet I’ve tried my best to do what I
could.
In case you couldn’t figure it out, the main area has been marriage.
As
you know, I tried online dating...and consistently maintained an
interest in someone, just in case, you know, that plan B. It was as
though not being interested in someone meant that I was giving up.
Doors shut, no one allowed to come in.
About
two weeks ago, I felt led to let go of my back up plans. It was time
to put everything in God’s hands and stop trying to make something
happen. It doesn’t mean shutting the door or not being open to
possibility. It meant letting go of the responsibility of making my
future marriage happen. It felt freeing and terrifying at the same
time.
My biggest fear with not having something
to hold onto is that it meant I couldn’t possibly know what to
expect...and even worse, I look around and there are no possibilities
left. But God has a funny way of showing me how easily He can open
doors or create possibilities.
The other night during a hot tub excursion, a few friends of mine and I were whining talking
about how there was a lack of men our age in our lives. How we need
them and their manliness to balance out our sometimes crazy femininity.
It wasn’t a long discussion, and we moved on fairly quick. Only a few
moments later, we look up to find a very handsome man, our age, coming
to join us. We’ll call him Mr. Fireman. Yes, one of the many things he
does in life is fight fires. Let’s just say, he fit the manly bill.
And so we talked, for almost an hour, before going our separate ways.
And
then there was today. I had jury duty. I walked in, and had to be
scanned twice because my purse had too much stuff in it to be sure I
wasn’t carrying something dangerous (ha! like I am any sort of
danger...). As I am putting my belt back on, I see this, yes, guy my
age. He says something to me about how crazy the security guys were,
and then we walk together to the jury room. We don’t say much, but
already it’s like we’ve formed a partnership...mission: get through jury
duty. We both walk over to the sign in spot, and finish at about the
same time. We both look for seats. I see some open ones in the middle
and head there. He follows. He sits next to me. Did I mention he’s a
good looking guy? So I ask him what jury duty is getting him out of,
and find out he works at a winery. So Mr. Winery and I spend the rest
of the time talking until we delightfully get told we are excused. We
walk out together, and as we each try and figure out where to exit, I
realized we split up. So did he...how do I know? I looked back and saw
him looking back.
In
about a week’s time, I met two men. Both handsome. Both easy to talk
to. Both without trying. I feel like that is more than I’ve met in the
last year! Hahaha....I’m pretty sure God is trying to tell me
something. He can bring someone into my life at a moment’s notice. I
don’t have to search high and low, or work hard to make something
happen. It can just happen. Although neither of these encounters
produced anything beyond pleasant company, I know there was a purpose.
God can do more than I can, quicker than I can, better than I can. And
if I can just stay in this place of trusting Him and following His
lead, I know I will see great things. One of those great things will be
my husband.
I think my plan B has always been pretty lousy anyway. I’ll take God’s way over mine.